Our children are keen observant and they grab things quicker than we think. It is important to create an environment as per their needs, likes, dislikes and interests to make them happy and comfortable. A happy child has a skill set that allows him to enjoy long-term happiness in life.
They’re able to pass up instant gratification in an effort to reach their goals. You can help your kids develop those skills by adopting healthy, lifelong habits.
The more amiable children find the environment the more attention they will seek. If they find the things of their interest around, it becomes easier to make them understand and learn the importance of those things in place. Be it home, school, playground or any other institutional place of their learning.
Once the child start showing his interest, he will start developing his cognitive skills, fine motor and gross motor skills, speech and language ability and social and emotional development.
Now, why are these skills important? These skills are important for growth and development of a children. To make them happy, confident, independent and a successful person. A happy soul who leads a satisfactory life.
A satisfactory life begins with self-discipline. Self-discipline allows you to stay focused on your goals. It enables you to stay in control of yourself and of your response to any situation. Self-discipline is like a muscle: the more you train it, the stronger you become. Lack of self-discipline can cause low self-esteem. How to impart self-discipline in children?
Is self-discipline enough to raise a happy child? What more is needed? Let’s see some interesting tips to follow.
15 best tips to raise a happy child every parent must follow:
Role model yourself – As we say that children are keen observant. It becomes very important that parents role model themselves as a happy soul in their children’s eyes. They must understand the qualities their parents inhibit so they value it and preach. Children tend to mirror your attitude and behavior. Be very careful about your responses, actions, and words when you are around them. Display the kind of behavior and reactions that you want them to exhibit in different situations. A happy parent raises a happy child!
Eat Right – Nutritional value plays an important role in a human body for both physical and mental wellness. Eating balanced diet is a must ‘add to cart’ attribute for children. As the famous saying – “jaisa aahaar, waise vichaar (what you eat, makes up your thoughts)”. Along with a healthy diet, make regular exercise, yoga a part of their routine. Outdoor play or some physical activity is equally important. All must go hand in hand along with child’s academic requirements.
Praise the child – Even if it is a small effort by the child on his own, it calls for a praise. Praising imparts confidence in children that what they did was right, if not perfect. Wonder words can create magic in subconscious mind. Eg: if a child put back his toys or books at place, appreciate the effort. Or, if the child has failed to brush their teeth, instead of criticizing them, compliment them on how they got up on their own the previous day and brushed without being told. Make it a habit to pay them compliments, so they clearly know which behavior or action is desired from them.
Encouragement – Encouragement is another important attribute that plays a vital role in the growth and development of a child. Whenever your child comes to you with an idea or suggestion, you must encourage it. Tell them that you like the way they thought. It will help them develop their cognitive skills.
Unconditional love – Show them your selfless love as and when possible. Celebrate each small occasion, moment or achievement. The more they receive, the happier they feel blessed. When you have a caring, loving relationship with your child, they learn to build relationships the same way. A caring, loving bond also ensures that the child gets closely attached to you and looks up to you. What you say or do has a profound, long-lasting impact on the child.
Communicate effectively – Effective communication is very important in any relationship. Have a family time and discuss on topics of your child’s interest or general things. They will open up with their vivid imaginations. Surprise yourself with what they feel or think about it. Make sure conversations with children are a regular part of your life so that you know how they perceive the things happening in their life and how they respond to them. Have meaningful conversations every day — ask what they did, how they handled a particular situation, whether someone did something nice for them at school, etc.
Talk positivity – Positive vibes attract positive things and vice-versa. It is more like a vicious circle. Get yourself trapped into it. Talk to children about the importance of it. Talk about your dreams and how you achieve it. Let them build their own dream since childhood.
Quality time – This is again an utmost important point. It is not necessary to spend quantity time with children but whatever time is being planned together must be significant. It leaves an enduring impact on their minds and gets added to the treasure box of memories forever. Get them engaged and spend time with them in some interesting activities off screen. Plan parent-child time as a part of each day’s schedule. You could play, tell stories, or take them to the park. Irrespective of the activity, ensure you do have these built into the day’s plan regularly.
Maintain space – Children are bundles of adventure and they like it until their interest lasts. All time supervision and guidance can restrict to their own thinking ability. So give them choices instead of list to do, and leave them with their own tiny world. They will return once they are done and tired of enough exploration.
Show them gratitude – Parents must show gratitude to their children for each small thing or act. It is a way of expressing happiness to them. Children may feel that what they do for their parents makes them happy. Incorporating gratitude into your everyday lives could help kids become happier, healthier people.
Lower down expectations – Expectations reduces joy. Parents must keep reasonable, lower or no expectations from their children. One of the biggest reason of anger or ultimate unhappiness is when we have high hopes from them and then we come crashing down into reality. If we show them our despondency, it may set aside in their little brain forever. Your expectations have a big impact on your child’s willingness to challenge himself. Your kids will work hard to meet your expectations as long as your expectations are reasonable.
Goal setting – Children must be taught the importance of setting goals. They must start with targets and then moving to short term goals and then to long term goals and so on. Achieving their targets or goals boosts feeling of triumph in them and in return build their confidence, self-esteem and morale.
Do not control – Children don’t like it when things are being controlled for them. Instead give them choices and leave them in their tiny world. Surprise yourself with their vivid imagination and creative ideas. Let them think and become a problem solver. Do not issue commands and expect them to fall in line just because you are the parent. Instead, offer solutions, discuss how they feel about something, and then come up with solutions together, so they become part of the process.
Do not compare – Last and never the least, never compare your child to his companion. Comparison brings feeling of envy, jealousy or revenge. Children might feel low of them and in turn loose interest. They may develop the feeling of hatred, resentment or discontent.
What are the signs of a happy child?
Well, all children are innocent and kind hearted but their personalities changes as they grow. They inhibit different attributes. They thrive as they learn. It is important for the child to be happy and satisfied in mental wellness too.
What characteristics shows if the child is a happy soul? Here are few signs that prove your are raising a happy child.
A happy child will show interests in whatever he or she do. Be it academic, sports, activities or any chore. The child may not be knowing it but he will show interest in either learning it or making an attempt. He may overcome his excuse.
Will not throw tantrums frequently – All children shows tantrums but some throw too frequently too handle and it is a sign that they are doing so to seek attention of their parents, guardians or loved ones. They are hinted that this is the only way to get their jobs done. The more they get pampered the more they do. It is a sign of their short term happiness which changes as the phase change.
Is very helpful – A happy soul is proactive in helping others. If a child offers a helping hand it is signal of his kind hearted. He is doing so because he had been taught that it is a good deed to help others.
A child who respect or obey elders is being treated the same way. He imparts the good etiquettes and manners.
Satisfied with what he/she has – If a child is satisfied with what he or she has he or she will be happy with it. They will value it and knows that their parents has got the best for them. They will not make unnecessary demands beyond level.
Is willing to share – A happy child will be willing to share his things. He will not feel insecure, envy or jealous. He understands the importance of sharing is caring.
No need to bribe to get the work done – Some parent do. But those who doesn’t have to follow this to get the work done by the child can know that they are raising a happy child.
What makes a child happy?
Children are adventure bombs and they like to explore things inside out. They find treasure in it. They like to make things messy. So, they indulge themselves fully. Yet, children also becomes happy when
– they are free to explore
– they are being given enough space
– they are being given a comfort zone
– they are with their companions
– they are being acknowledged
– they are being appreciated
– they are being encouraged or praised
– they are being listened
– they are being awarded
– they are being surprised
– they are being given choices instead of instructions
– their likes or dislikes matter
– they are being respected
– they have freedom of speech
– their opinion matters
– they are not compared
– they are not controlled or judged
– they are offered help
– and, they are being loved unconditionally
The list is exhaustive. Each child is different and nurture on their own pace.
Keep in mind that children don’t need to be happy all the time. In fact, they need to experience uncomfortable emotions too, like sadness, anger, fear, and disappointment.
There’s no need to cheer your kids up or take action when they’re experiencing uncomfortable emotions. Instead, coach them through it and help them find ways to soothe themselves and cope with their feelings.
It’s not a reflection of your parenting if they aren’t happy every minute of the day. Your job isn’t to become responsible for your children’s happiness. Instead, it’s up to you to give your children the skills they need to manage their emotions in a healthy way.
Finally, the best thing you can do to help raise happy kids is to give them a loving environment. Children who know they are loved and cared about are more likely to thrive, even when they face tough circumstances in life.